Everything you experience today is the result of choice you have made in the past.
NDTV decided to take survey on Heavy traffic in the city. So the NDTV reporter start interviewing the people who are all stuck in the traffic. One guy was sitting in the car with unhappy face, the reported asked about the heavy traffic in the city to that guy. He was saying that he doesnt know when he could reach to work place and how is he going to face his boss. He was frustrated. NDTV reporter moved to another guy who is sitting in another car. NDTV guy knocked his door ..that guy gave a very pleasant smile and said Good morning! and reported asked the same question to this guy too. He was smiling and saying I have started my day early but i am badly stuck here, i have got few interesting CDs/Casettes with me, I packed my breakfast and lunch..if this is going to continue then i will listen to music and i will have my food here..and i will enjoy my day.
Could you see the difference here? Given a same situation, people reacted in two different ways. Traffic is really the deciding factor then everyone should have been angry but everyone wasnt. It was their individual response.
Give up blaming!! :-) Be the change!!
Have you ever noticed guys that people almost always complain to the wrong people who cant do anything about their complain. For example : They go to work and complain about their spouse and they come home and complain about the people at work. Why because its easier, Its less risky.
It takes courage to ask your boss or spouse to change things. Learn to replace complaining with action that will achieve your desired. Simply allow things to happen to us by our inaction and our unwillingness.
People only complain about things they can do something about it. we don't complain about the things we have no power over. Have you ever heard anyone complain about gravity? No never of course not but why not? it was not for gravity, people wouldn't fall down , we wouldn't break dishes but nobody complain about it. The reason is gravity just exists. No one can do about it. In fact because it just is we use gravity to have fun play base ball, basket ball which require gravity.
Circumstance you complain about are by their nature, situations YOU CAN CHANGE but in generally people have chosen not to change themself.
Try To Take Risk - Face it ! Change it !!
Say for example :
-Say no in the face of peer pressure ,
-Quit and find a better job,
-Guts to trust your feeling – but only you simply do those things :
why we do – because you think it involves lot of risk
Bill Gates would never have founded MS.
Steve would have never founded Apple computer. Forever reason “why its risk and not possible?”. - Yes it is possible !! and Risk you risk it !! :-)